Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely … (Psalm 25:16)

Loneliness is a common experience to everyone. Some experience it in the midst of friends and family members while to some, it may be a result of lack of friends/lovers who share similar views with them.

If you travel often alone, you are particularly vulnerable when you are in your hotel room far away from people who can check on your excesses. Actions such as use of illicit drugs, consumption of alcohol, watching of pornographic and X-rated films and the extreme act of extra-marital affairs are possibilities.

No doubt, being in the wrong place at the wrong time can cause many Christian to depart from faith easily and unknowingly; that is why David prayed in Psalms 25:16, ‘Turn to me and be gracious to me for I am lonely.’

Here are some things to consider whenever you find yourself in a state of loneliness:

  • Make up your mind to draw close to God. Staying away from your dearest lover adds more pain to your hardship and makes you susceptible to temptation; therefore, make your way back to Him. Jesus said: ‘I am the vine, ye are the branches: ….for without me ye can do nothing’ (John 15:5). He understands the hollowness of your heart and He alone can fill it up with joy unspeakable.
  • Prepare to come out of your shell. Make use of the gifting of God upon your life by getting engaged in some aspect of the Church services. Also, get out into the community and be more sincere in getting to know others and letting them get to know who you are.
  • Reach out. When you concentrate too much on yourself, it is a guaranteed way to feel neglected or isolated. Winston Churchill said, ‘We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.’ Be ready to give out to others.
  • Finally, pray for and practice the art of forgiveness. Feeling sorry for yourself and harbouring grudges and offenses leads to bitterness and by extension, you’ll start to withdraw from people that love you.